That is the Truth and all of us will experience this in life.
I only realised what my parents did for me after they were gone for good. Just took things for granted. My Father Mother and my second sister did make a huge impact on my life when they were alive. I did acknowledge it, but never gave it serious thought; but after they were gone all that I was left with was memories to lean on and the realisation how much they did for me surfaced.
Strangely the corollary is also True.
When you do something, it gives others the opportunity to Agree or Disagree, Praise your efforts or Pull you down to shreds with Criticism.
If you look at life from Both these angles, lucky are people who do not do anything in life; just sit and vegetate and become invisible to all. People just ignore you after a while and walk around you as if you did not exist.
This now explains why men in their 70's become Sanyasis in India and walk away from their families who might see them as a Financial Burden.
Please share your thoughts on this if you have the time and inclination.
Ram
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Ram
I read this message of yours with a lot of interest not only because is it an original piece of writing (unlike forwards 😊) but also for its profoundity.
It is impossible to directly repay one's parents for all that they did for us. Instead, one’s expression of gratitude can best be articulated by upholding the values and standards that were dear to them in the way we lead our daily lives. This approach also allows us to live life in the way we want to and not be too impacted by what others think. Cheers.
Purinder
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I also miss my my parents very much and all they did for me standing by me and giving all support whenever I needed. Parents are the real God in-person and often the realisation comes late. All of us should care for them when old and let them know our gratefulness while they are still alive.
Harwant
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It is general human nature to think brood and feel unhappy about "good things not done to them" as the saying goes. We take for granted the good things being done to us.
On an average we all care and respect our parents and relatives and friends. At least we do not talk Ill of them. We have difficulty to accept when others talk ill of them. In my case I feel I have taken care of my parents well till the end. Probably I could have been more nice by spending more time with them. I feel bad about it now. Probably with age more maturity comes. By that time, they are no more. My sister 89. I really care for her every week I talk to her. Used to visit my sister at Chennai at least once in 3 months and now corona has come in the way. By the way she is well.
I sincerely try to be as respectful and as lovable as possible to all my family members these days.
Kuppu
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The 4 ashramas have been well-thought of....
"3rd one is the vanaprastha" which enables you to learn to detach and "4th one sanyasi" is to stay detached till your end...the way of life and attitudes is different for each stage and it changes with time
The challenge is to break this cycle and ensure that the elderly is able to instill this concept in young people so that they reconcile better at every stage of their lives and live in more joy and peace.
CK
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How true. I wonder why? Every one will agree and be surprised. When it comes to myself knowing how true this is, do I act any differently? More than likely I also fall into this trap. This is really a paradox.
Bhamy
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Subby: Cynical but very true, Ram 😊👍
Me:Not Cynical at all Boss. That is the Truth and all of us will experience this in life. I only realised what my parents did for me after they were gone for good. Just took things for granted
Subby: Sadly that's also true, Ram - I've learnt more after Veena's loss than the previous 60 years
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Agree with you completely. We could not be where we are without the contribution of family and friends who gave us the psychological boost to become achievers, without expecting anything in return.
The same is true of society as a whole. Each generation builds on the achievement of the previous ones. So we in our turn must do for others with a selfless psychology.
Chiku
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